Complaining about getting friend-zoned have become usual, but there’s only one way of getting friend-zoned and everyone knows very well how it is: trying to befriend someone in the hopes they will fall for you instead of making your intentions known from the beginning you are attracted to the person and/or wish to be more than friends. So here is a guide to avoid getting friend-zoned:
- Don’t Let It Feel Like Friendship
The worst thing about taking too long to show your true interest to the person you are attracted to is that you develop a friendship, and once you do, it’s easy to start to second guess yourself about whether you should ask the person out or not, and at this point, you are close friends and you may not want to ruin that.
- Don’t Take Too Long to Ask Your Crush Out
How is she supposed to know you are interested in being more than friends if you never bring up this subject or talk about it? Don’t expect everyone to take hints, especially small ones that don’t come out as being hints to anyone but yourself, go straight to the point. Plus, if you take too long, the person may get in a relationship and you will be friend-zoned. So, go for it!
- Be Selfish, Put Yourself First
Obviously, timing is everything, but self-esteem and courage are also important. Keep in mind the worst that could happen is the person saying NO. Considering the other option is being their friend and a shoulder they can cry on, especially about their own relationship that isn’t working, is not going to make the person fall for you most of the time. Instead of taking all this time on someone who doesn’t even know you want to be more than friends, say it in upfront what your expectations are and be nice, the odds of it working are higher than getting out of the friend-zone!
- Friend-Zone Is Your Fault Only
The idea that woman and men can’t be friends is not an acceptable notion in this century, nor is the one that says everyone (especially woman) always know the difference between when someone wants to be friends or more than friends. You are not the center of the universe, no one is going to waste their time friend-zoning you on purpose. There are over 7 billion people on Earth, that’s a lot of people to befriend, if you don’t want to be friends with the person, she can just go anywhere and make friends.
Also, there is a reason why we were given the ability to speak and express ourselves, and that’s so we could use it to communicate clearly what we want and what our intentions are. Use it wisely!